Every week I do a reflection and ask my-self certain questions. I do this to live in intentional life. To examine how I’m living everyday so I can simply be better and get the most out of this short precious life we have.
Am I trusting the process?
There is a battle within me to see the outcome of my work and see it now. The truth is, mastery comes with practice, with time, with trial and error and many failures. There is no shortcut. The process is a requirement.
Previously my perfectionist tendencies would force to over-plan, and over prepare. Get at much control over all aspects as I can so the outcome would be amazing. The truth is that you don’t have the information for the perfect plan at the start. But when you make the first move, that’s when the magic happens! The world shifts a little, more information is revealed, communication takes place that you could not have predicted. (This is similar to Pictionary – the person drawing will change his course in response to the guesser’s answers). You are now in a place to make a better next decision. And that is the best way to learn, the best way to do the great things. Just start! See failure as a step in the right direction! Trust the process.
What do I want? Did I show myself respect?
As women especially, we want to reach consensus, get approval or permission for the things we do. The way we look, what we say etc. But just stop! What do YOU want? What do you want from this conversation? What do you want from this dinner party? In this moment right now, respect your self, your needs. Its actually very rare that people will get annoyed at that. Have the courage to ask for what you want and say no. Do it pleasantly, with a smile, unapologetically. It all starts with self-respect. As an example, I’m going to party today. I will be seated with a bunch of people I don’t know. I’m only there to show support for the bride-to-be. But of course, I will make an effort to get to the know the people I’m sitting with, share positive stories with them and enjoy myself. If at any point I am not enjoying myself, I have the right to re-assess why I’m there, and if it makes no sense to stay, I will congratulate the bride and excuse myself. You shouldn’t have to do anything you don’t want to do. This is your life, every second is yours, you are the master of it.
What is it for? Do I know my priorities for the day? Am I protecting them with everything I have!
Am I grateful? Maya Angelou
Did I see the possibility on people? I am finding this hard. I want to feel the magic again.
Did I follow the fear? I am! I’m practicing this everyday, I’m speaking up.
Reflecting on my goals.
- I will be the most organized person I know – time boxing!
- I will show myself an abundance of respect and compassion
- I will prioritize family and community first and foremost
- I will make a decision about investing in 2022
- I will do weekly reflections every week!!
WHY??
By doing the above things and having confidence in myself and being organized, I will be able to make real change at work.
Tomorrow
- I will time box my day
- I will show a lot more kindness and support to my sister